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How can I create balance between my entrepreneurial endeavors and personal life?

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Sweat The Small Stuff

We've all heard the saying "don't sweat the small stuff," but what happens when the 
"small" stuff can keep you from sweating? For the modern day entreprenuer, smart 
phones, ipads, laptops and the like allow work to follow us home, vibrate us out of
sleep, ping us out of friendly conversation, and alert us about the next time we 
have to go back. In an article by Miriam Schulman entitled "Time to Go Home" there is
substantial proof that we stay at work longer, work harder, work "off-the-clock" more 
and bring home our work stress to our families. Steve Harvey talks about this same 
phenomenon in his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man when he says "until your guy
has achieved his goal in those three areas, he will be too busy to focus on you." 
It's gotten so bad, we can't even fall in love unless someone figures out a way to 
excel spreadsheet it and send it via email. Houston, Los Angeles, San Francisco, 
New York City, Miami and all of the other busy cities we have a problem and you can't
fix it without realizing it's there. 

Have you lost friends? Is your hair thinning? When is the last time you've been on 
a date AND paid attention? When is the last time you've cleaned your house? Think
about your work trajectory and your self-improvement trajectory and if they're not 
progressing similarly, you may realize you have some changes to make. This is not
an impetus to ignore your business but a wake-up call to start "sweating" the small
stuff. Calling a friend you haven't spoken to in a while for a short chat, cooking
a meal instead of eating out, going out with friends, attending your place of 
worship a litte more often, and sleeping in are all small ways you can acknowledge
your personal life while still staying focused. Some professionals dedicate one 
night a week to self-care be it a Friday night pedicure, a Saturday cocktail, or
a Sunday evening RedBox and are uncompromising when it comes to this time. Others simply 
say I do not email or answer phone calls after 5PM and realize this works for them.
It is time to draw lines in our lives if we'd ever like to enjoy the lives we work for. 
If a touchdown was optional each time a football player crossed into the endzone, 
the game would be pointless. Draw lines in your life and define when and where work
may come into your home without knocking. Sweat the small things like birthday 
cards, conversations, and late mornings before the big things like loneliness, 
depression, sickness, and fatigue become a factor. Do it and your personal life 
will thank you later.