Lonely doesnt mean Alone

I understand where both of you were coming from.  Him particularly, a lot of people sit around waiting and wondering when the "right" relationship or "person" will come along, that they begin to act as if they dont have a lot of other things on their plate.  Many of them do finally get that relationship, and then end up realizing later that had they been doing what was in front of them, they would have noticed that this was not the right time for one and that they did nothing but an injustice to themselves and the other person.

I agree with you on the point concerning ambitious people not making time for fruitful relationships.  I see it all the time.  Honestly, I firmly believe people make time for what they want to have time for.  No matter how inconvenient it is to them, no matter what it takes, if they want a relationship and if they want it to work, they make time to do that.  It's just a matter of whether you want that taking some of your focus or not, whether it's family, friends, or a relationship.  Many people view taking that time away is unproductive and that it has the possibility of snatching their productivity through stress, and unwanted emotional connections.

Many times people arent even ready financially to be married or be in a relationship, but they make it work. I think getting ready for the responsibility of having someone means more than being together financially. For some it may be finishing school or getting over a past love but honestly for most it's a matter of character and time, and how the two coincide.  Personally, I think being ready has more to do with your character and who you are as well as where you are in life.  If you are a person that quits easily, then you dont need to be in a relationship.  If you are a man that does not feel he's ready to settle down, your character nor the place you are in life dictates that you dont need to be in a relationship.  If you blow off easily for small things, chances are, you dont need to be in one either, and probably dont have many friends, patience and understanding is key to growth and progress of any relationship.  Generally, if you're not willing to put in the time, work, patience, love, understanding, compassion, listening, and etc., there's still somethings that need to be developed in you before you try and cultivate anything with anyone.  Dont get me wrong, no one is perfect and we all need work in different areas, but if you're unwilling to "work"on yourself and in your friendships, relationships, and etc., though they can be beautiful when done at the "right time" with the "right person" or "people" (if we're talking about friendships) and feel less like work, there are moments where you will have to put in that hard work.

Only you can know you, dont cheat yourself or another person if you're not ready.